Hello, my name is Ryoko. I met my partner and got married through a dating app, and I work as a stock trader.
I started using the dating app when I was 40 years old. After two years of active searching, I got proposed to at 42 and got married in 2020. This is my first marriage, while my husband was previously divorced. Neither of us has children.
Before meeting my husband, I exchanged messages with over 500 people and met more than 50 of them in person. I exclusively used free dating apps and didn’t rely on matchmaking services, blind date parties, dating information services, or community-organized dating events, known in Japan as “Machikon.”
During my search for a partner, I kept my stock trading activities and assets a secret. I believed that a woman’s financial power isn’t necessarily appealing in a romantic relationship, so I introduced myself as a “freelancer with an annual income of $20,000.”
I initially started using dating apps without knowing much, but as I continued, I realized that both matchmaking and stock trading have rules. If you act at the right time, you’ll see results. I thought, “If I’d known this earlier, I could have been more effective.”
When I started sharing my experiences and tips on social media, my follower count increased significantly. I also began receiving feedback like “I’ve started dating!”, “I stopped meeting weird guys!”, and “I got married!”
Subsequently, I set up a blog and included an “Advice Corner,” where I received numerous inquiries, confirming that many people still struggle with dating apps.
This blog incorporates everything I’ve learned from my own experience and over 2,000 consultations. I’ve tried to write as clearly as possible, covering everything from practical tips to basic mindsets.
In the “Real Stories” section, I share my two-year journey using dating apps. I’ve organized my advice by steps—registration, matching, first dates, dating, and engagement/marriage—so readers can find what’s relevant to them.
If you’re already using dating apps, especially those in their 40s who understand the difficulties of dating at this age, you may find some relatable content. For those considering starting, I hope my experience serves as a useful reference. I’d be happy if it helps you get an idea of what to expect.
I want to show everyone that even in your 40s, and without spending money, it’s possible to find a marriage partner through dating apps.
Best regards,
Ryoko
